Sobriety, Support, and Solidarity: Changing the Conversation in Hospitality
Losing someone to suicide really shakes you to the core, and sadly, it's a feeling I know all too well. The recent loss of my girlfriend's cousin was a stark reminder of how fragile life and mental health can be. This wasn't my first rodeo with loss; I've had to say goodbye to friends and two girlfriends under similar tragic circumstances. Kicking alcohol over a year ago opened my eyes to a lot I was blind to, especially about my own mental health struggles. It was no walk in the park, but getting sober turned out to be a game-changer for me, my future, and my loved ones.
In the world of hospitality, we rarely crack open conversations about mental well-being or the journey to sobriety. It's odd, considering our industry's rich tapestry of diversity, accepting folks from every walk of life. Yet, when it comes to our own health and happiness, we often drop the ball. The relentless grind, stress, and not-so-great lifestyle choices that come with the territory don't help. Stats are alarming: workers in our field are 50% more prone to depression than the wider population. And let's talk substance abuse—our industry sees nearly double the average rate. These aren't just numbers; they're wake-up calls for us to band together and create a support system.
That's the spirit behind the HeardBehind Discord Server. I envisioned a space where anyone in the restaurant and bar scene can find an ear to listen, a shoulder to lean on, and a community that gets it. This platform isn't just about chitchat; it's a lifeline for those of us caught in the often isolating, always demanding hospitality hustle.
Digging a bit deeper, consider this: the very nature of our jobs puts us at a higher risk for anxiety and other mental health issues. A study found that a whopping 70% of restaurant workers report experiencing significant stress, compared to 30% in other professions. This stress isn't just about the physical toll of long hours on our feet; it's about the emotional drain of constantly putting others first, often at the expense of our own well-being.
And the impact of our work environment on our mental health can't be overstated. With late nights, easy access to alcohol, and the pressure cooker atmosphere of a busy service, it's no wonder many of us struggle in silence. HeardBehind aims to break that silence. It's a dedicated spot for us to share resources, advice, and, importantly, moments of joy and success. It's about reminding each other that, even on the toughest days, we're not alone.
The goal with HeardBehind goes beyond just talking; it's about fostering real change. By offering mental, emotional, and even financial support, we're building a stronger, healthier community. This server is a safe harbor for us—the chefs, bartenders, servers, and everyone in between. No judgment, no outsiders, just real talk and real support.
In rounding this out, my hope for HeardBehind is to give back in the most meaningful way possible. To create a space that's truly ours, where the focus is on lifting each other up and forging a path to a healthier, more supportive industry. It's about making sure no one feels like they're going it alone, whether they're struggling with mental health issues, sobriety, or just the daily grind of our industry.
